I love my wife! Roughly a week ago, Julie and I decided to stop eating out as much so we can tighten up on our budget in 2011. The last two nights, even after dinner, she would make another full-on-meal that we could then eat the next day for lunch. I am not talking about just your typical P/B & jelly type of lunch. I am talking about meals like spaghetti. I have felt so blessed that Julie would care so much about the quality of food that I would be eating for my lunches. I love my wife.
Last night we had some students ask us some questions about our relationship and why we are so happy. Julie began to share about standards. The more I minister to this next generation, the more I realize this next generation is not setting standards. God is very clear that He wants us to date someone that is a believer.
2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
If light has no relation with darkness, believers should not be dating unbelievers. I cannot count the times young women have shared with me how they are being screwed over and hurt from some guy that has no intentions of dating them. I want to be very clear, the pain that is caused because there have been no standards set.
When I was in my teenage years, I was in the same boat. I never set standards and sure enough the pain came along with the lack of standards.
My encouragement to you tonight is to set standards. Set them as high as the sky. Set them with grace and mercy in mind, but set them as high as you can. If you have faith in God first and practice having relationships with the standards you set, he will give you people that really do care about you and that are not just there for their own selfish reasons.