On February 16th, I wrote a blog called “Criticism Refines You.” There was so much great feedback on this blog that I have been thinking about the analogies I used in that post. I mentioned the concept of how crazy it would be for an athlete not to take his/her coaches or mentors counsel.
I want talk about this idea of a mentor. I truly believe that everyone needs a mentor. It doesn’t matter if you are the CEO of one of the fastest growing companies, a Next-gen Pastor of a 10,000-person ministry, or a young man or woman who is just now embarking on the world of leadership; I believe you need a mentor.
A mentor is an experienced and trusted adviser. A TRUSTED ADVISOR. A person that has gone through what you are going through as a leader. They may not have had the EXACT same experiences, but they have trudged a similar path before. The insight, vision, and wisdom you receive from a trusted advisor is worth more than anything this world has to offer.
Can you imagine having a baseball batting coach trying to coach you how to swing a tennis racket? It just isn’t going to work. So when you choose a mentor, choose someone who knows MORE about leading people than you do.
In 1 Kings 12, King Rehoboam chooses the advice from his peers rather than his trusted advisors. Because of that, his Kingship FAILED. Do not choose a mentor because you like them. Choose a mentor because you respect them. Listen to those who are wiser, more experienced, and those who are older. Now, they may not fit all three of these requirements, but the one that is a non-negotiable is someone who is wiser. God tells us to seek wise counsel. We may not always want to, but it is far better to have a wise man over a “yes man.” We must be willing to surround ourselves with people that will sharpen us, not people who will appease us.